Thats a good point. People have affairs for a number of reasons. Some for sex,some for the thrill of it feeling like a teenager again. But then there is just companionship,someone to laugh at your jokes. Someone who pays you the attention that you crave. Just for a tender touch a stroke of the hair a deep gaze into your eyes. But most of all to just be accepted and wanted without conditions. Are we right?. Who knows only we can say if its good for us or not. I guess only time will tell?. We choose our fate!

Yes indeed life can be hard. I also know that you can love two people at exactly the same time because it has happened to me and it was torture to maybe think i had chosen the wrong person to send the rest of my life with. Ah the taste of life can be so bitter sweet. Take care friend x x x !.

Lol i like you. I do not think that if we had eternity to figure each other out i am afraid that we would still be confused with the opposite sex. I realy do have to go. Take care!.

I believe we can love more than one person at the same time. maybe different sorts of love, or different intensities, but still love. Love is not something that is rationed. We love all our children, and each one that comes along we love as well, we don't love the others less. The more we love, the more love grows. I think the comment in your post is very good, who decided we should be faithful to one person only. It is society that has forced us into this false morality, and we can see it is false, because nearly 50% of married people have affairs.

We 'males' can usually love more than one person at the same time becuase we are fairly 'simple' folk. When with e.g another woman we are attracted to we concentrate solely on them and put out significant other to the back of our minds, visa versa.

I think your blog shows exactly what I have felt for a long time, that has human we are not designed to settle down with just one person for the rest of our lives. Different people offer us different things, just as different relationships help us gain different qualities. Thanks for the invitation and I look forward to reading more of your blogs in the future!! x

i think forbiden fruit comes into it....we would all like to have the one partner but sadly we fail to share our true thoughts, i know a manwho goes over the side, and when i ask why it is because he thinks that his wife would not consent to the type of sex he liked as she was a "nice" woman...the thing was i knew that she was also over the side for exactly the same reason.....reality and fiction could be the same if people knew how to talk and wernt so up tight about sex!!

the best marrage i know is a couple who every year on their anneversary go to a fixed destination but they meet each other for the first time at this place and they take great care to live the persona of the person they want to be each year they are somone different...love the idea..

Well as my lover enjoys going to B&Q with me, cutting my hedge, visiting parks, discussing books, swapping radio recommendations etc we're not exactly sex maniacs - Well - Not any more!
While sex is hugely important, we feel we are just totally compatible and our relationship is complicated by the presence of the 'L' word.

I guess there are different types of affairs. Have you seen "Last Tango in Paris"? They both think they want an affair for sex. Then he discovers he actually wants a relationship and she doesn't.

Jesus you lot are such a bad influence I'm going to gome with all sorts of potty mouth LOL